I remember something that Oprah Winfrey said a long time ago, something to the effect of… “When you know better, you do better.” I understand how the sentiment was intended, and it is true, but it has always bothered me a little bit because there’s so much more to it than there seems. (Not even the tiniest slice of shade thrown here; the sky is a brilliant blue, with nary a cloud!)
In my way of looking at life, we humans know better long before we do better! Many times we know that we shouldn’t have said what we just said, but we said it anyway. We also know that we need to get enough exercise, eat healthier, be kinder, be more patient, etc. There are many layers of knowing, and it takes desire and effort to get to the bottom of true understanding. In order to create a new outer manifestation, inner work must be done.
Whatever it is that holds us back from the better doing is what needs to be freed in our energy. This relates to last week’s post “Pass go…” about naming and claiming patterns we’d like to change. I’m mostly talking here about the depthy stuff, but the lighter stuff qualifies, too. It’s very easy to put off what we don’t wish to address, even when we know better!
I’m going to share an energy technique that comes from my studies with Eden Energy Medicine. (It flashed in midway through writing this post, so I’m taking it for granted that it’s meant to be helpful.) This hold works with neurovascular points which aid in soothing the body’s stress response/resistance, which thereby opens the door to the possibility of healing and change. You can literally begin to reprogram yourself with this method.
Try it out:
As you bring something to mind that you are having trouble releasing, flatten the fingers of both hands on the middle of your forehead, placing your thumbs on your temples next to your eyes. Allow yourself to really get into the energy of the upsetting habit while breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. After several minutes you should start to feel calmer as this process ultimately helps create flow by relaxing the body’s reaction to the associated stress.
I think that I shall tweak Oprah’s remark to
“When you finally do better, you know better!”